Of course. Just because we do something, even over and over, doesn't make it less scary/dangerous/intimidating/risky/difficult....And it doesn't diminish our bravery. Things don't have to be new to be important.
Uhm, I'd take anything that Eleanor had to say about daily doing something scary as more an attempt to fight off the stifling boredom of the privileged NYC socialite scene than anything substantial, or life reaffirming.
I've read this. Not commented. Read this again. Not commented. Gone and thought about it.
I don't want to do one thing every day that scares me. Did you know I'm really a scaredy cat at heart?
Terrified of some bugs. (silly but man, they're so *creepy*) Scared that something will happen to my kids. Scared that I will die before I'm done.
Okay, that's not what Mrs. R was saying...I get that. But as I get older...I'd prefer the sentiment of "do something every day that you don't want to do, anyway." Things like...be kind to a stranger. Don't be mad because there is "extra" laundry. Don't swear at the weather because, you know, MORE snow. Don't beat myself up because I'm not "enough"...those are better things to hold to, for me, at least.
the world is a pretty scary place as is...I don't need to go actively seeking it...(maybe I'm not ballsy enough...)
n- I understand where you're coming from on this -- and think your adaptation is sound, as well. But I guess the thing about this that rings a bell for me is that fear can cripple... and more fears cripple more. So you have to learn to not give in to them.
Like, if one of those bugs was making your child scream, would you stand outside the room and scream with him/her? Shut the door and just walk away until someone else showed up? Or would you grit your teeth, grab many, MANY tissues, and go dispose of the danged thing?
Some of our fears are worth ignoring. Personally, I shall never bungee-jump. But I do think you need to tackle at least some of them in order to keep growing.
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Of course. Just because we do something, even over and over, doesn't make it less scary/dangerous/intimidating/risky/difficult....And it doesn't diminish our bravery. Things don't have to be new to be important.
gg-
I'm sure you're right, but sometimes I wish the one would get out of the way and let me tackle something else! :-)
Good question Jz...please let me know if you figure out the answer. ;)
Hugs and Blessings...
Cat
C-
No kidding.
I think for now I'll settle for saying I approve of the sentiment!
Uhm, I'd take anything that Eleanor had to say about daily doing something scary as more an attempt to fight off the stifling boredom of the privileged NYC socialite scene than anything substantial, or life reaffirming.
I love Eleanor Roosevelt - and have a framed copy of this quote in my office!! I TOTALLY think it counts, even if it's the same thing over and over...
D-
I dunno…
Even if you chose to discount the source, I don't believe it invalidates the wisdom in the words. :-)
s-
Okay, so that's you and gg on the side of the YESes… ;-p
I've read this. Not commented. Read this again. Not commented. Gone and thought about it.
I don't want to do one thing every day that scares me. Did you know I'm really a scaredy cat at heart?
Terrified of some bugs. (silly but man, they're so *creepy*) Scared that something will happen to my kids. Scared that I will die before I'm done.
Okay, that's not what Mrs. R was saying...I get that. But as I get older...I'd prefer the sentiment of "do something every day that you don't want to do, anyway." Things like...be kind to a stranger. Don't be mad because there is "extra" laundry. Don't swear at the weather because, you know, MORE snow. Don't beat myself up because I'm not "enough"...those are better things to hold to, for me, at least.
the world is a pretty scary place as is...I don't need to go actively seeking it...(maybe I'm not ballsy enough...)
nilla
n-
I understand where you're coming from on this -- and think your adaptation is sound, as well.
But I guess the thing about this that rings a bell for me is that fear can cripple... and more fears cripple more. So you have to learn to not give in to them.
Like, if one of those bugs was making your child scream, would you stand outside the room and scream with him/her? Shut the door and just walk away until someone else showed up? Or would you grit your teeth, grab many, MANY tissues, and go dispose of the danged thing?
Some of our fears are worth ignoring. Personally, I shall never bungee-jump.
But I do think you need to tackle at least some of them in order to keep growing.
Yours in Weeniehood
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